Wednesday, March 05, 2008

Their is power in submission...I mean tradition

Feministing:
CNN's recent article on "unfulfilling" marriages is pretty par for the course: Statistics about how many (or few) married couples are having sex, interviews with sex therapists and relationship experts, the whole shebang.

And then there's this super cool piece of advice for couples who want to spice things up:

Try traditional gender roles: Men may become more sexually assertive if they feel more in control, and women may feel more desire for a mate with newfound machismo. "You don't have to get his slippers," explains [sex expert Laura] Berman. "You just have to give him some control." She suggests a date where the man chooses everything -- her clothes, the restaurant, the food -- as a starting point.
I'm not against a little role playing, but a return to traditional gender roles as a relationship-saver always freaks me out. Because some people take that shit too far.
People are free to live their lives as they see fit. But it is interesting how many try to push this as if it is some cure all. Just give up some control...okay. A relationship is supposed to be about give and take, they seem to be implying that women have all or too much "control."

Let him dress you, like his fantasy doll, hidden in the back of his closet? He'll be more assertive, if he knows your he3ad is bowed and in submission...I don't know, the article seems damn silly. If you want to suggest role playing in a relationship to fulfill personal fantasies, why not just say that?

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